Mother love

Didn’t have time to look at the prosery prompt yesterday, but this morning it made me think of the premise of Elsa Morante’s novel, L’Isola di Arturo, Arturo’s realisation as he comes out of boyhood, that his father’s marriage to a poor Neapolitan girl was a sop to respectability, and a front for his homosexual adventures.

Mother love

She always knew, that much is obvious now, the things my father got up to during his long absences. Though ‘knew’ is probably too precise a word. His longings and desires, what drove and embittered him had no echo in my mother’s constrained, traditional upbringing, which was mine too, until understanding dawned, and I broke away from its traditions of suppression and oppression.

Yet despite time and distance, her face follows me, dark-eyed and full of love, the same gold earrings because it would never have entered my father’s mind to buy her anything pretty, the embroidered headscarf, hands busy with work that always found the time to caress and comfort. Sometimes I feel that I am haunted. By how much our mothers do, not know, is surely how we should judge them? She loved me enough for two. That’s all that should matter.

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Author: Jane Dougherty

I used to do lots of things I didn't much enjoy. Now I am officially a writer. It's what I always wanted to be.

24 thoughts on “Mother love”

  1. As much as we hope that those old-fashioned relationships are long gone, in which the father gets up to all sorts and the mother has to have the strength to put up with it while at the same time being the one to give all the love to the children, they still exist. I love the way you punctuated the prompt line, Jane.

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  2. I thought I had read your prosery, but I missed it.

    I know of, but haven’t read her novels (yet). This is so poignant, and I like the way you broke up the line. I like the adult son’s realization. I think we often do not realize things about our parents until we’re grown.

    But also, I’m glad things have changed–at least in some places.

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    1. Elsa Morante was a tremendous writer. There’s a real wealth of Italian post-war literature. that hasn’t aged at all.
      Yes, children see their parents as ‘parents’ not at people and it needs maturity to understand when they don’t fit the stereotype.

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